If you are a parent I am sure you have heard this before- "That is how (fill in the blank with age) year olds act". This usually comes after you are telling someone (in laws, your parents- cough, cough) about how your child was doing something they shouldn't have been doing.
Maybe it is just me, but I get really (I mean really) annoyed by comments like this. Yes, my three year old son not listening at soccer practice and being just a tad bit disruptive may be how a three year old will act but guess what- I find it unacceptable for him to take away from other kids' experience because he wants to pick up artificial turf and pretend to eat it.
Why is it that people want to coddle children by setting the bar so low as to excuse everything they do with "kids will be kids"? If I tell my son that it is OK to not listen to his coach (or teacher, or friend's mom, etc.) then what kind of child am I raising? Shouldn't we, as parents, set the bar high for our kids so they have something to reach for? They will not always meet these goals but at least they will try and will have some sense of accomplishment in their lives whereas if we set the bar low (as in "kids will be kids") then they will never have to put effort into bettering themselves at anything.
So yes, my son may march to the beat of his own drum (which is fine and a good quality to have) but he also needs to know that in society there are rules and expectations of how we all should act as children and as adults. My job is to love my children and raise them to be productive members of society and letting them just do what they want to do does not accomplish that in any way, shape or form.
So yes, I suppose kids will be kids but pushovers will be pushovers and will raise children who have no idea how to cope with the real world as adults.